BFF - Best Friends Forever. Eternal Life. Eternal Damnation. "I'll love you forever".
Infinity. Eternity. Forever. Evermore. Hogwash.
As humans, we seem to have an obsession with stagnation. A refusal to embrace change, growth, the spice of life. We want things to last forever; why? Fear of the unknown future? Why is "eternal life" the ultimate reward? Is what we have never good enough?
Certainly, it is pleasant when a good thing lasts more than a fleeting moment. But who's to say that if a good thing passes on, it won't give way to something better?
One can spend so much time and energy in futile attempts to prolong, preserve, and hoard, that something perishes without being fully enjoyed. Smell the flowers now; tomorrow they will be gone. Don't store that food until it is stale and mouldy, because it is too good to eat. "Eat, drink, and be merry".
Clinging to relationships (be it family, friends or the OneTrueLoveTM) and not wanting to have to make new ones, long after your lives have gone down different paths, is senseless. I suspect that worrying over how to keep someone forever, has killed more than one relationship.
Similarly, fretting endlessly about health (sometimes to the point where it makes you ill and stressed!); enjoy things in moderation, don't refuse every slice of white bread, piece of cake, drink or cigarette, for the sake of the extra two weeks' life it might bring you when you're old and decrepit and shitting in your pants. When death could be just around the corner, as inevitable as taxes, why waste time and effort to suffer in vain?
Friends, food, moments, love, lovers, life....all come to an end. Fact. There's no use worrying about it. I'd rather simply enjoy it all as much as I can when I have it, and when it's gone; it's gone.
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To me, life IS growing, changing, exploring, by definition. If you're not growing, you're not living. You're dying. I keep telling people this. Part of my whole home-educatory philosophy. If you're not learning something, you're stagnating.
So to me, eternal life is constant growth. All the good things of life, without the constant stagnation and decay that taint everything we know in this current life.
People, especially religious ones, often postulate on the concept of Heaven - the eternal hereafter. What it'll be like, what we'll "do", etc.
"We'll only speak one language!"; "We'll know everything instantaniously!";
How intensely dull. Seriously. My vague speculations are more that we WON'T know everything all at once, but will be free from our current limitations. So we'll have eternity to learn every language, and invent our own.
The poets will have eternity to write lines of inspiring verse in every language that touches them, and develop new kinds of language and new kinds of methods of communication.
Artists will be able to imagine and paint without weariness and without fears of plagarism and lack of content.
Explorers will have an infinity of worlds and places to explore, to map, to write about, and so to inspire the artists to do the same.
I think I have the same kinds of ideas about love, and relationship(s) too. In regard of marriage: The whole of this life to build, grow, explore and develop one monogamous relationship, I think, would allow much more depth and love than plethoragamic less certain ones.
I dunno. Just some thoughts.
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